When is it time to try counselling?

Posted 3rd November 2025 by Rachel Miller

Introduction

Life can be complex, and it doesn’t always go the way we expect. We may experience emotional distress, face difficult decisions, or feel stuck and unsure why. At times, we might feel overwhelmed or find ourselves struggling in our relationships.

If we’re able to manage these challenges and move forward, that’s a positive sign. However, sometimes things can feel too difficult to handle alone. We might even tell ourselves that our problems aren’t “serious enough” to deserve help, but everyone deserves support.

Counselling provides a safe, confidential, and non-judgemental space to explore what’s going on beneath the surface. A counsellor can help you gain clarity, develop coping strategies, and make positive changes. Because counsellors aren’t part of your personal life, they can offer neutral, objective support with no hidden agenda.

 "We are all works in progress and we are all capable of change." Daniel Gilbert

 Definition of counselling

Counselling is a form of talking therapy that can take place in person, online, by phone, or even outdoors. It’s provided by a trained professional who listens without judgement and helps you find ways to understand and manage emotional challenges.

Sessions are usually scheduled for a regular day and time, creating a consistent and supportive space where you can explore your experiences.

Counselling and Therapy – What’s the Difference?

Traditionally, counselling focuses on shorter-term support for specific issues or life transitions happening in the present. Therapy tends to be longer-term, exploring recurring patterns, deeper emotional themes, and mental health conditions.

In practice, the terms counsellor and therapist are often used interchangeably, and many counsellors use therapeutic tools in their work.

It’s important to find a practitioner whose style and approach feel right for you. Don’t hesitate to ask questions about how they work; a good counsellor will be happy to explain.

Common Reasons People Seek Counselling

·        Relationship difficulties

·        Anxiety or depression

·        Bereavement and loss

·        Low self-esteem

·        Family issues

·        Anger or frustration

·        Feelings of shame or guilt

·        Life transitions and major decisions

·        Personal growth and self-understanding

And many more. There’s no “right” or “wrong” reason to seek support.

Reaching Out

If you’re wondering whether counselling might help, you’re very welcome to get in touch for an initial chat. There’s no pressure — just a safe space to talk things through.

www.tonbridgecounselling.org